As kids, we absorb change as if it’s normal – we’re so used to not really getting things, that we just absorb information and new surroundings like they’re air.
And people and environments? “John was my best friend yesterday, but today Steve is.”
We can change our whole paradigm with the launch of a spitball.
But as adults, we learn to coast. If we actually step back to think about making massive changes, it’s more like turning around an ocean liner, than zipping around with a sea doo.
What we often forget is how much our lives change so drastically – not just with little bumps, but with massive impact.
1. Go to college/university
For most of our education, we’re on a track – pointed forward, told when to start the new classes, with little variation in the menu.
When we go to post-secondary school, though, everything changes.
Now we’re picking specializations. We often have to build entirely new social networks. We have big blocks of free time during the day – giving us time to slack off, or to work extra hard.
For the first time, we undertake responsibility for not just our learning, but how to manage our education.
And that doesn’t even include those of us who lived away from home.
We all made it through, and it doesn’t feel all that alien any more, does it?
2. Start a career
Then came the next big jump. Maybe, if you’re like me, you had a ton of jobs through your teen years.
But they were never like your first “grown-up” job. Working part-time for entertainment money is very different from establishing yourself as an adult, with all of the responsibilities that come with it.
And the time! All of a sudden “fun” was something you tried to sneak in when you weren’t too tired.
For a lot of people, those first few years of working are wide open, with no clear idea of where to go next.
But somehow, you got your footing.
3. Start a family
This is the most ridiculous, life-altering bucket of craziness that could ever affect someone.
And we actually volunteer for it.
For the first year, we rarely sleep for more than three hours straight. Before then, we complained every time we stayed up late to watch a movie on TV; afterwards, we take it for granted that we’re going to stretch our physical emotional limit every single night.
Once we move out of zombie mode, we subconsciously accept that never again will we randomly go out for drinks after work, or buy a spontaneous snorkeling trip in the Bahamas. (Not to say we couldn’t do those things, but there are a few more logistics to work out beforehand, no??)
And do we regret all of these compromises?
Never – because we end up richer.
Everything turned out great!
We were all pretty nervous before we undertook any of those changes. Maybe you even thought about backing out at some point.
But you not only got through them, you became changed by the process.
These life stages weren’t things to endure, they became a part of who you are. You’re better because of them, you’re stronger because of them, and you’re a more well-rounded person because of them.
We don’t preach Career Motion as some grand alternative to twiddling your thumbs. We embrace daily change because we know that we will grow, and we will enjoy it.
It might seem crazy beforehand, but you know you’re going to enjoy the ride – and profit from it.
What other huge changes have you made that aren’t included here? How did you grow from them? Tell us in the comments!